Why You Are Not a Failure As A Mom

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You may have never said it out loud, but deep down you feel like a failure and you’ve created a long checklist of why you fail as a mom.  


1.  You don’t feed your children 100% all natural food and have actually served macaroni and cheese from a box.

2. You have piles of laundry in several rooms of your house.

3. You never create food origami for your children’s lunch boxes.

4. You use your phone while your kids are playing at the park.

5. You served cereal for dinner three times this week because you were too tired to cook.

6. Your children did not read by age 3 and were finally potty trained at the ripe old age of 4.

7. Dirty dishes are piled up in the kitchen sink and you’re not really sure how long they’ve been there.

8. You still haven’t lost all the baby weight and your youngest child started kindergarten this year.

9. You occasionally allow your children to watch television for 3 hours straight.

10. Your toilet hasn’t been cleaned in months.


If anything on this list sounds familiar, congratulations! You are not a failure and you are not the world’s worst mom. You are NORMAL.

Can we just be real for a minute and admit that life doesn’t look like a magazine cover or a Pinterest board?

Can we admit that although we want to be stellar parents and do the absolute best that we can for our children, there are a lot of days where we are just doing well to keep them dressed, fed and safe?

And that’s okay.

The perfect mom isn’t the one who is doing the awesome Pinterest craft with her kids and posting it on Instagram.

 The perfect mom is YOU.


You are the perfect mom to make your children giggle until their tummies hurt.

You are the perfect mom to hold your toddler all night because she is sick.

You are the perfect mom to say yes when your 3 year old catches yet another caterpillar and asks to keep it as a pet.

You are the perfect mom to wipe the jelly off your kids faces for the 300th time.

You are the perfect mom to snuggle up and read a book on the couch.

You are the perfect mom to draw your kids closer into relationship with God.


Why? Because you are the only mom your kids have and only you can perfectly parent them – just by being you.

So today forget the list of things that you have failed to do. Enjoy your children and yourself right where you are – imperfect and perfect at the same time.


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  1. Rebecca says

    What a wonderful post! Sometimes I feel like some deadbeat mom because I didn’t do anything real creative during the day with my 4 year old twins because I was too tired. Then I tell myself “hey, you read them stories, enjoyed good conversations with them, taught them responsibility by having them clean up their toys, made their meals, etc.” Then I start feeling a little better. I am trying my best. It’s nice to know that other mom’s feel the same way.

  2. Heidi says

    Thank you! It’s easy to feel like a failure as a mom when you see all the “perfect” examples out there. We just need to change our focus to what we are doing and keep doing our best.

  3. says

    Beautifully written! We moms tend to really be perfectionists, and society seems to encourage this. It is perfectly okay to have a house that looks like squalor, a cartoon playing, and enjoy a fun evening playing video games with your messy (but happy!) kid. 😉

  4. Christie smith says

    Thank you for this post. It made me cry; it was a good cry though! Thank you so much for the last part about drawing them closer to God also! That made me smile.

  5. Allyn says

    My children are in their 20’s and 30’s and I catch myself feeling like I have failed as a mother. I know I must have done something’s right because my children all live near me. We still do things as a family and I now enjoy my grandchildren. Mother’s do the best that we can and we will always feel it is never enough. Love them with all your heart and the rest will fall into place.

  6. karen b says

    thank you thank you…….. this spoke to me in so many ways……having a senior this year I have wondered if I have done all the right things…… no the house isn’t spotless but I have spent quality time w/ him :)

  7. Charmaine says

    Wasn’t going to read this right now; I have cakes for 100 people to bake today; I have been feeling like a failure for some of those reasons and more…Thank you for writing it–you helped assuage some of my guilt!!

    Loving all I read from you!

    I hope to always be one of your acquaintances and readers.

  8. LaRisa says

    Just wanted to say thanks!!:) I have done many of the things on your list with guilt. Thanks for the reminder that I am the perfect mom for my children!:)

  9. says

    Wow! Great minds think alike! I just wrote a very similar post the other day on April 1 – only mine was about what a failure I feel like!
    Thanks for sharing! :)
    God bless,

  10. Dineen says

    Thank you so much for this, Kimberlee. For some reason, that pile of dishes (among other things) has really gotten me down lately and I really needed to hear/read this. Perhaps a repost every 6 weeks or so is in order? I think we all need reminding to encourage ourselves and each other.

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