Feb
26
2012

My Weekend: A Napkin, A Camera and A Failure

by Kimberlee Stokes Affiliate Link Disclosure B

When I arrived at Blissdom this past weekend, I thought I was attending a blog conference. It turns out that God had other plans, and He used some unusual items to teach me a few lessons about life.

 

A Napkin

After a harrowing 7 hour stay in the airport trying to get to Nashville on Thursday, I arrived at the conference on Friday, a day late but just on time to hear keynote speaker Jon Acuff. He’s a very successful author and blogger who works for Dave Ramsey now.

I expected Jon’s keynote address to be something like “My top three tips for better blogging.” Instead he showed us a photograph of a napkin his young daughter had placed on his computer.

The napkin said, “Daddy pay atenshun?” Jon then proceeded to say a most profound statement: “The years you lose are not for sale again later.”

 

Wow.

I realized during that speech that I have someone who has been putting “napkins” on my keyboard, but I haven’t been reading them. Time to be present for my family.

 

A Camera

Later on Friday I attended a photography session presented by successful photographer Me Ra Koh. Me Ra talked about photos telling stories. She explained that we need to frame shots in a way that tells the story of the person or the moment we are shooting.

Along with the photography tips, she told a story of how she had been approached by the head of Sony to work with them on a new project. Her first response was to ask incredulously,”You know I’ve been in a psychiatric hospital, right?” (Read more of her story here.)

If you read my story here, then you know that I also was in an inpatient psychiatric hospital when I first started dealing with the sexual abuse from my childhood. Honestly, I hate that part of my past, but Me Ra Koh’s bravery and transparency in sharing her story made me realize that I have been framing the photo of my life in a way that hides part of my story. I need to widen my lense and reveal ALL of myself, in life and on my blog.

I need to allow people to see my failures and my weaknesses, as well as my successes. If I don’t share the entire picture, people can’t appreciate my story.

 

A Failure

Growing up I spent my entire education trying to be a straight-A student. I have carried that mindset right into my adulthood, but when I attended a business session led by Holly Hamann (co-founder of Blog Frog) I realized that the “straight A” mindset has to change.

Holly shared her own story of trying multiple business ventures and failing in them. These were BIG failures too, not your “Oh, I messed up. I’ll have to do better tomorrow” kind of stories.

The thing that I saw in Holly, though, was a determination not to quit. It seemed that the failures only energized her to try again.

I realized through Holly’s stories that I have to be bold, brave and crazy. Who cares if I fail as long as I learn something from it. I don’t want to be that person who is lying on her deathbed filled with the regret of things that I never tried.

 

After learning these lessons, I’m not really sure what life is going to be like when I return home from Blissdom. I do know one thing:

It’s going to be different.

 

{ 17 comments… read them below or add one }

Andrea February 26, 2012 at 11:26 am

Fabulous lessons. Thanks for sharing these!

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Kimberlee February 26, 2012 at 11:34 am

Thanks Andrea. :)

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Mary February 26, 2012 at 11:38 am

Very profound … I’m excited for the new opportunities these lessons will bring to you. m.

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Kimberlee February 26, 2012 at 11:40 am

Thanks Mary!

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katie February 26, 2012 at 12:02 pm

Wow. Thank you for sharing!! I also need to start paying attention to the little notes in my life. I needed a reminder.

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Kimberlee February 26, 2012 at 12:15 pm

You are very welcome Katie. I cried the “ugly cry” during that napkin talk.

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Lynn February 26, 2012 at 12:28 pm

Wow! You are incredibly brave to share something so painful from your past:) I applaud you and thank you for your honesty.

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Kimberlee February 26, 2012 at 9:45 pm

Thanks Lynn. :)

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Connie Carmichael February 26, 2012 at 5:47 pm

How inspiring! Thank you for sharing. Not only did you learn, but I will learn from these lessons. I just love how God plants seeds where they need to be sewn. Once again, thank you!

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Kimberlee February 26, 2012 at 9:45 pm

You are very welcome Connie! :)

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Kimberlee February 27, 2012 at 10:37 am

I wish I would have seen you at the conference…but it seems that we connected emotionally, as I walked away with many of the same thoughts! I cried my eyes out as I shared with my husband last night about “the napkin.” If I didn’t hear anything else all weekend, you better believe, I won’t be sitting on my computer when the kids walk in the door today!

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Melissa @ the chocolate muffin tree February 27, 2012 at 1:43 pm

I agree… You need to reveal more of yourself. I’ve slowly revealed more and more of my past in certain posts (even though my blog is mostly kids projects and instructions). It is very empowering to be honest and readers respect you for that and plus you seem more like a real person then just a perfect blogger with no problems. Thank you for the advice.

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Kimberlee February 27, 2012 at 3:44 pm

Thanks Melissa. I’m definitely not perfect–haha!

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rahilya February 27, 2012 at 9:03 pm

really interesting notes. i agree 100% about that transparency thing. i agree with this “I need to allow people to see my failures and my weaknesses, as well as my successes. If I don’t share the entire picture, people can’t appreciate my story” so true!

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Kimberlee February 27, 2012 at 10:48 pm

Thanks Rahilya.

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Fran March 4, 2012 at 3:35 pm

Thanks for sharing these lessons and for sharing a part of you. When you share what you’ve learned, we can learn, too. Great article.

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Kimberlee March 4, 2012 at 3:54 pm

Thanks so much Fran. :)

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