{UPDATE Feb. 2013: Welcome! These posts are from a series I started in February of 2012. Our income has since increased a little, but we still use these same principles to live on less so we can spend our money on our true priorities.}
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Living on Less Than $28,000 A Year: Yes, our family of six lives on around $2200 a month and for the next few weeks I’ll be sharing how we can survive, and even thrive on an income that is less than half the national median income, and what the government calls “below the poverty line” (less than $29,990 annually) for our family size.
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Before we get started, I’d like to address two issues: (1) WHY I’m sharing the information and (2) WHY we live on such a small income. I’ll address the specifics of HOW we live on a lower income in future posts.
WHY AM I SHARING THIS INFORMATION?
I have written about money saving ideas for some time, but I have been hesitant to put an actual number on our annual income for a couple of reasons. Number one: it’s personal. Number two: it’s personal.
Growing up I often heard that there were two things that you never talk about–politics and religion. I would add a third: finances.
These three topics define who we are as individuals and families within our society, and therefore people have firmly held convictions about them. I really don’t want to get into a debate about someone’s firmly held convictions and let’s face it, people don’t just go around announcing their annual income.
I also don’t want to be judged. Looking from the outside, it’s very easy to say that someone should or shouldn’t do something. There are many choices that our family has made that you may not agree with, and I am taking a risk by sharing them. I am risking my “reputation” and I am risking being criticized and looked down on. (After all, when thousands of people read the blog, I have a bit of exposure to public scrutiny.)
So why am I sharing now? My husband and I have considered these factors and decided that the risk is worth it if we can encourage even one family in their financial decisions and struggles.
There are many people who have mortgages larger than our entire monthly income and who may be shocked that we can live on so little. If you are one of those families, I am honestly very excited for you that you make a larger income. Perhaps you would like to be able to save more, though, and maybe reading this series will give you some ideas you hadn’t considered before.
There are also quite a few of you who live on even less than we make and life is a daily struggle for you. Hopefully you can gain some ideas and encouragement from this series as well. Now to the second point.
WHY DO WE LIVE ON SUCH A SMALL INCOME?
There are many factors which led us to make the choice to live on one, smaller than average income. The two that come to mind as I write are reducing the stress from over-commitment and prioritizing relationships.
Simple is better.
Life with four children is busy for anyone, but throw in the fact that our oldest son has Asperger’s Syndrome (an autism spectrum disorder), our oldest daughter has a severe wheat allergy and our youngest daughter has behavioral issues coupled with me working a full time job, and you have a disaster. My stress level was unbearable and I was very unpleasant person to be around (sometimes I still am
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Simplifying to one job and one school (home school) keeps me sane and our family happier.
We love Dad (and I’m sure you do too!).
I am a former public school teacher and my husband has most of his experience working for a non-profit charitable organization. It would make more financial sense for me to work and dad to stay at home, but my husband is much better in the role of encourager and entertainer of the children than he is as homemaker
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Having no higher level training, my husband’s only way to make a higher income right now is to work more hours and more jobs. He could do that, but we want to have family time just to relax and hang out.
Time with dad is important at every stage, but it is crucial with three teenagers. Girls need their father’s approval and attention to form their identities at this stage of life. Teenage boys need to see how their fathers interact with others, especially how they treat women. Seeing Dad interact on a regular basis with Mom and watching him treat her with respect makes a lasting impression on a young man. All teenagers need someone to bounce ideas off of. Having more relaxed time at home means we have more time to listen and discuss things.
Remember, the judgment I mentioned earlier? Well, at this point you should know that I do not judge anyone who makes different choices than we do. We each have unique circumstances and values, and we each have to do what is best for our families based on those factors.
As a matter of fact, we would like to make more money. We definitely don’t want to stay where we are financially, but if we have to choose between money and relationships (and for now we do), we are going to choose relationships every time. Relationships are eternal. Money is not.
Now that you know WHY we live on less, in the next few weeks I will be sharing HOW we live on such a small income. In the meantime, feel free to leave a comment. PLEASE remember to play nicely. I would like everyone to feel welcome here. Thanks!
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Thanks, for doing this!!! I cannot wait to read along and find out how you do it. We have a 7 year old and one more one the way.
You are very welcome Danyle. Congratulations on your new baby!
Ahhh, thank you so much for this! I found you via Pinterest, and your reasons for living the way that you do are exactly what I try to explain to people when I tell them that no, I don’t want to work 6-7 days a week, and that I like a healthy work-life balance. No one I work with seems to get it (and, shocker, they all have some unhappy portion of their lives). My fiance and I are getting married next year, and we are definitely looking to live more frugally and be able to save more money for the wedding and our future.
Welcome Brandy! How exciting to be in the beginning of your life together and being on the right track.
Kimberlee,
You are brave and strong, amazing! Thank YOU for standing up and speaking out for those of us who are not just sitting back and watching the world crumble with our children in it! I will definitely be reading and watching your blog. We just went to the Colin Gunn’s “IndoctriNation” (Highly recommend!) Premiere and talk back with the Director…you are in the same vein and MAKING A DIFFERENCE!!
Wow Jina! Thanks so much for your encouragement.
I just wanted to say thank you for posting this! It is a true insperation to hear about your life & choices! I found this at a time that I truly needed it most & so for that thank you!
Hi Jennifer! I’m so glad that you’re here.
I love your site, and wanted to share something with you ..
My husband and I both had been married before, … When we tied the knot we did it with FIVE children … Both our previous marriages and the subsequent divorces had been difficult for the kids.. SO, .. we made a CONSCIOUS decision for me to stay home and raise the kids…
Hubby is a cop .. (a non-union public servant) and they make VERY little money here in the South. It wasn’t always easy, but in hindsight I can honestly say it was the RIGHT decision for our family .. The kids are now grown and I have 3 wonderful grandchildren with two more on the way !
It CAN be done, you and I are both proof of that.. Thank you so much for being “brave” enough to lay it all out there for us …
Sincerely …
Sabrina Massie
Sabrina, thank you so much for sharing your story. It’s good to hear from someone who is a little further ahead of us and to get affirmation that we are making a good choice.
So excited to read more of this little series. I too, choose to stay at home with our son. We can use all the help, ideas & tips we can find! I agree, relationships are what matter most, not money. Something more people need to remember. Thanks for sharing!!
Thanks for your encouragement Ashley!
Thank You so much for posting this! I found your blog through pinterest and I am very excited to read how you do it!! My husband is in school and we have a one yr old that I stay home with so all the tips I can get help!! =] Thank You!!
Alyssa
Hi Alyssa! Glad you’re here.
I found your site via pinterest. I am so excited to keep reading. Your life sounds very much like mine…in so many ways.
Welcome Tiffany–glad you’re here!
Thank you so much for all your hard work. I have 4 children, too and I am looking forward to improving my finances with your help!
You are very welcome Christi!
Thank you so much for being brave enough to share your story! My family also chose to live off one income and my husband is a stay at home dad. People really seem to have a hard with this and always make comments about him finding a job. They don’t seem to understand why we would choose this. There is definitely much less stress having a spouse at home to take care of sick kids and day to day business! Can’t wait to read your blog and learn more tips on budgeting
Keep up the good work!
Thanks for your encouragement Joanne. Living off one income is definitely going against the grain, but just remember that you make choices for your family, not for those who want to criticize you.
Thank you for sharing this! Your story sounds so much like that of my family. We, also, Homeschool and live off of my husband’s small income. I have a degree also and feel that I’m constantly judged for our decision. It’s comforting to know we aren’t alone. I look forward to reading what you have to share. Thanks for being open and willing too help others.
You are definitely not alone–just read through some of the comments on this post.
I’m so glad you are finding some encouragement here.
I am sooo glad that I came across your site on Pinterest. My boyfriend of a few years and I have started talking about moving in together and between the two of us we will have 7 children between the ages of 2-16. Financially we will both have to work but with our combined household size and the income that we will bring home it will be very tight. I look forward to learning as much as I can from your experiences!!
Hi Sara–welcome! I hope you can find some good ideas.
Thank you for being proud of who you are and strong enough to do this. I admire this so much and cannot wait to read on !!
Wow, thank you so much Brandy.
Can’t wait to hear more! Thanks for this! Saw this on Pinterest and went straight here
xoxo
Bre
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Welcome Bre!
Hi!
Thank you for sharing this. I’m in a temporary position with no benefits and my husband is really unhappy in his position. It’s nice to read an article that reminds us that your job and income don’t define you.
Thanks!
You are very welcome Claire.
Very well put…it’s about personal choices. We choose for me to stay home as well and make it work. Yes, we could have a bigger tv, or more than one, and fancier stuff…but time together is more important. Playing games and music together in the evenings has been more than watching cable, etc…good for you for finding what works for your family.
Thanks Amie! We like playing games too.
Hi! I also found your blog via Pintrest and honestly can’t wait to find out more. We are a one income household and making it pay to pay is difficult too much of the time! I am now following via email! Can’t wait to find out more!
Welcome Angie! I hope you find some good ideas.
Found your blog on Pinterest and so excited to read it, I make a bit more but I am a single Mom so I live on one income and support two girls. We do okay financially HOWEVER, I have a HUGE student loan debt that I would love to tackle and I’m hoping your website can help find ways to cut corners so I can start paying this debt off and living simpler!…Thanks for your help!
Welcome Christy!
Thank you for being so vulnerable! I have a young family (two daughters, ages 2 and 3) and my husband and I have made some decisions very similar to yours over the last two years, decreasing our income drastically, and improving our quantity and quality of time together drastically as well. I can’t wait to read the rest of this series!
Thanks so much Brooke! I am definitely a proponent of quality of life.
Thank you so much for doing this! My husband are going through a similar situation right now. We have two small children, I am in school fulltime, work partime and my husband works fulltime. We are working with a budget very similar to yours( slightly less) and we are really struggling right now. I am excited to follow your posts and gain insight! Thanks again!
Welcome Lauren! I hope you find some good ideas.
I’m so anxious to see how you guys make it and compare notes. Between full time job and full time school in another city, my husband is gone from 7am-10:30pm most days. We don’t have children, but were in the same boat of being frustrated & irritable all too often. We recently decided that I would stay at home & we would live off one income. Mind you, I went from working 70-80 hrs a week to NOT AT ALL. I’ve always been pretty good at stretching money, but I’d like to learn to stretch it further so we can hopefully go on more little weekend adventures before we start having to worry about paying a sitter down the road
Weekend adventures sound fun Ashley!
Love this! We made the decision to live a simple lifestyle. We have two kids and I stay home with them. My husband is currently a substitute teacher, waiting for a full time job to open up (tough jobs to get where we live.)
We agreed that he would not take on a second job or work extra hours at his brothers company because it is more important for him to be home with us at dinner and on weekends. I never would have thought we’d get flack for a decision like that but it’s amazing how much we do!
Hi Shan! I have found that other people are all too willing to tell you how you should live your life. Oh well.
I am a stay at home mom and we to make very little money each year. My husband works as a chef in an office building cafeteria and while he could make much more money in a different setting we (the kids and I) like having him home in the evening and on weekends and holidays. For us it isn’t about the money either but the family time and memories we are making. Can’t wait to hear more from you. Oh yeah we have 5 kids so also a big family.
Hi Nicholle! It’s good to have dad home if you can swing it. I hope you find some good ideas here.
I am so thrilled to have found this on Pinterest! I am a Tay at home mom. I have two sons, my oldest is 2 years 9 months and my youngest is 9 months. My oldest son has autism and sensory processing issues. I want to give my boys the world, save for them to go to college, plan for retirement and enjoy our lives now! I look forward to finding a better way of thinking and planning!
Hi Melissa! My son has sensory processing issues too. Have you seen my aspergers/autism posts here: http://thepeacefulmom.com/autism/ ? I don’t know if they will help you, but maybe you’ll find some encouragement. Thanks for stopping by.
Thank you! When my boys go to bed I will read them all! We are very new to this so I appreciate all the advice I can get!
Congratulations on making such wise decisions! My family is grown (my husband and I have just retired–part choice and part lost job) and we could use more tips on being frugal. I stayed home when my kids were young, and we did without some stuff, but none of us regret it at all. Healthy children are way worth the sacrifice. Thank you for doing this for all of us! Blessings on you!
Thank you for being real. We firmly believe that it is the husband’s job to provide for the family and so we live a much different life than most. We would not change it for any amount of money! It is our own conviction and we understand that others may not feel the same way we do, but for our family it is what is best right now. Especially with 4 kids ages 9 and under! Thanks again!
THANK YOU so much for doing this! I’m going through a very hard time right now and I’m a saver by all means but I’m always looking for more ways to do it! I’m a SPED teacher too, so I don’t really make that much $, and with a toddler daughter another job is not something I want to find right now! So looking forward to reading all about you and your family!
I look forward to reading your series! Kudos on doing what works for you and choosing what was (is) more important for your family and thank you for sharing it!
Can’t wait to read more…. I have 7 children and one more on the way and I left a full time well paid job (I’m the bread winner) to work part time so I could enjoy probably my last pregnancy and my children more. I have 2 special needs children and frankly wanted to be more available to all of my children. My husband stays at home and we tag team very well…. We save our income tax return and budget tightly. We make it on less than $20,000. Half of that goes for housing….. I am so happy to see your blog!!!!
Wow Susan–sounds like you can teach me a thing or two!
We are a blended family with 5 kids ranging from 1 yr to nearly 10. It would have cost more in child care than I make doing admin work so I stay at home. We have always had tight finances with all the unexpected expenses that come up in life. I’m really hoping to keep up with your blog and see how you’ve managed to handle these things as they come along on a budget. I’m hoping I can incorporate some into our life and make things easier so my husband doesn’t have to work 80 hours a week to keep us afloat. We both really want him to be able to be home more because we have seen the changes in the children with him being away from home more and more. Looking forward to reading!!
I have a small child with a milk intolerance (bordering on an allergy), and two step daughters with weight related health issues. we live ok for what we make, far below the poverty line, and do very well all things considering, but I am always looking for ways to help make our lives even better.
Thanks.
We are a blended family with 5 kids. I have 4 of them full time ranging from 1yr to nearly 10. Do you recommend homeschooling to someone who doesn’t have any educational or teaching training? I went to college for business but I don’t have any teaching experience or knowledge. Public school has lots of unexpected expenses. Is that another reason you homeschool? I’m trying to decide if we should homeschool or rather, if I would be capable.
Diane, there are so many resources available that you really don’t have to worry about having teacher training. Check with the requirements for your state (hslda.org is a great resource) as far as the requirements for your educational level. Most states only require that parents have a high school diploma.
We have very different lives as I am single with no children, but I am trying to live on less and simplify my life. I applaud you for putting your income and numbers out there. It’s not something most of us were raised to do, but I think if more of us did it, it wouldn’t be so taboo and people wouldn’t try to pretend they have more. We all have different priorities and things we are willing to splurge or save on. I love to hear people’s ideas and see how they save money even if that isn’t how I would do it! I wish you the best of luck with your blog and I look forward to reading more!!
Thanks Andrea!
Thank you for this. You got (excuse me for being blunt) Balls.. I have been so afraid to talk about it until recently.. still am to friends.. because I do not think they would understand,
2 years ago, We went from making 60k a year to I think less than 24k. After purchasing a home, and DH getting laid off 3 months later, it hit us hard. Thank goodness we took into consideration possible layoff before the home was purchased.
( and paid off all debt but student loans ) but still we did not expect to lose so much income. Being a SAHM for 5 years, and being thrust back into full time work was so hard. I could never make what DH made. Thank goodness as a SAHM I researched more and more ways to cut costs at home. I wish when we were making what I considered decent money at the time, we were smarter about it. We finally learned through God, our church, that should have never been about the money, but about the relationships. Funny thing is, now that we are not making the “big bucks” we are happier, DH is happier in his new job. But he learned through all this, that his identity is not what he does for a living or how much he makes.. I am happier. Our relationship with each other and our kids is better. When we are not focused on buying this or that or having this or that, and we focus ourselves on each other and our relationship with God instead, how much more fulflling life actually is. I have so much pride and joy in making things now for my family. It is a sense of accomplishment when i can proudly say I spend 300 bucks a month on food for a family of 5 ( to be a family of six soon!) or, that I made something from scratch that cost me .50 to make instead of 5 dollars to buy. ( thank you Miserly Moms book and internet) Knowing for me, my purpose is to raise my kids the way God wants me to, show them what a woman, mom and wife is suppose to be and I am content and happy where we are at. The lay off was a blessing. It Put everything into perspective. It is possible to live on a small income and be happy. I, like you, choose relationships over more money. I may have no TV, cell phones, etc. but all those things distract us from our relationships anyway. I believe I have a more fulfilling relationships because I don’t have those things (I also have more money in my pocket too
Lovely comment! You and I share the same perspective. Thank you for sharing.
Holy cow, what a trip it was stumbling over your site! My husband and I don’t really talk about the reasons why I am at home and we are homeschooling to anyone outside the family, so it was very strange to read our reasons here in someone else’s words! I would like to add that the discipline needed to function at this level of financial means makes us more disciplined (that’s a no brainer, eh?). When we were DINKs we had more stuff, but we were always chasing after more. We’ve learned a whole lot more about life and ourselves and even charity choosing to live this way. So glad to have “met” you!
Nice to “meet” you too Christie! This lifestyle has definitely produced more discipline in my life and let me tell you, I needed it! Thanks for stopping by.
When I was pregnant I knew I would resent not being their to watch my baby grow. I chose to work part time. By not having daycare we have saved money, but we also have an amazing relationship with out son.
I am great at being poor.
We don’t miss cable (we do have Netflix) and even though we qualified for food stamps we didn’t take them, we can afford to pay for our food by being smart.
What you are doing is great, and I look forward to reading through for more ideas. I could rant forever, but you probably share similar sentiments on most of what I would say.
Welcome Alicia! We have chosen not to take government assistance as well. Makes it harder in a way, but I’m glad we made the choice.
You are making such good choices. I find it sad that you have to be sort of cautious that people may judge you because you make little money. Everyone should have the same idea as you, to live on what you have and to be happy. That’s what life is all about! My husband was in the army and is currently going to school so we live off of my income (which is actually very good) and I am ALWAYS looking for ways to live more simply so that we can save money to help our little one have a stress free and debt-free education when he is older. I often wish I could stay home because I feel like we all have life wrong (living to work instead of working to live) but currently that’s just nto an option for us. I am so proud and even envious of you to MAKE what you want happen. Congratulations!
Thanks for your encouragement Judy. The important thing is to make the choices that are right for your family, which is exactly what you are doing.
I found this series via Pinterest. I’m amazed at many of the commonalities in our lives. Looking forward to reading this series, and digging back through your blog.
Welcome Kelly!
Thank you so much for sharing! I can’t wait to read through this series. My husband and I have been married for 2 1/2 years and have an 8 month old. We’ve made the decision for me to be a stay at home mom and would both love it if I could homeschool when the time comes. As of now our income is not quite as much as yours and we could use any encouragement and advice we can get on how to cut back. Again, thank you so much for this!
You are very welcome Christina!
You are very welcome Christina!
Well, Kimberlee – you apparently made the right choice to come out and write about your income and how you live on only $28,000/yr. Kudo’s to you and your family. I look forward to following your blog.
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It looks like you are right Jackie. I seem to have hit a nerve with this series. Thanks for following.
My family also lives on an income of 29,000 a year with 8 children. I do all I can to make EVERY penny count! It is often hard, but I would rather raise my babies to love Jesus and themselves more than going out and getting a job so we can spend less time together and more money on stuff not needed!!! I know I can not provide All their wants, but I do provide all their needs and we allow ourselves a CHEAP vacation EVERY year…..It is so worth the efforts to spend time with my kids!!!
You can probably teach me some things Emily!
I came across this when a friend pinned it on pinterest and it came at the perfect time! My husband and I have decided for me to take a break from work (I work part time from home but it has become such a source of stress), so I can focus on raising my 4 month old. Its something we just started praying about and feel like finding this was an answer to pray as it will be a bit of a strain financially for me to not be working. I’m excited to start reading along!
Welcome Carrie! You will never regret spending more time with your baby. Good luck!
HI! I am already so encouraged by this post! I was teaching in a public school last year and my husband is also a teacher. We decided we wanted to start family and knew we could not keep our values with me working full time. I am not staying home and am pregnant with our first baby. We are living on my husband’s salary which is about $2,200 a month as well (health insurance, retirement, etc. takes away about half of his check). I can’t wait to read the rest of your posts and get a some good ideas before we welcome our new addition! Thank you for being willing to be vulnerable in order to bless others!!!
I’m sorry. I meant that “I am now* staying home.”
Thanks Katy. Glad you’re here.
I’m so excited to have stumbled on this series. I found it on Pinterest. I’m really looking forward to seeing how you do things. We are also a family of six, homeschooling, one income and don’t bring in much more than you do each month. It’s a struggle. I’m very excited about your series. Thanks for being willing to share.
You are welcome Tina!
Hello,
I just found your site off of Pintrest. Thank you for stepping out and sharing. Sometimes I think people forget that we are meant to help each other out and I feel you are doing this well by sharing your successes. My family has made the choice to live off of my income alone while my husband returns to school and helps out around the house with our two little girls. It is challenging and not everyone in our life understands our choices. Please for everyone who was precious enough to comment above do not be discouraged by anyone. For every one negative there are a million positives. I look forward to reading more.
Thank you – Sarah
Thanks so much Sarah and you are right, we shouldn’t be discouraged by others negative comments. We just need to do what we feel is right for our family based on our beliefs.
I also found you on pinterest and I am glad I did. I love that you are brave enough to this; that by itself is inspiring. I definately agree about the relationships and money (family is EVERYTHING). My Uncle Andy even quit his job one time along time ago because they wouldn’t let him have Christmas off to spend with his family and that is exactly how I am. Anyway, I can’t wait to read more. Thank you Kimberlee.
Welcome Kadi!
Thank you for doing this! So many people are quick to judge others financial decisions and it can be so hurtful! I am so excited to follow this series!
Thanks Kristin!
Yay! For similar reasons, we also live on a pretty small budget with four children, and I’m struggling trying to make it work. I’m really looking forward to your ideas + suggestions. Thank you!
I too found you on Pinterest and I am so excited to see what you have to offer! We are working on becoming debt free and any help in the area of saving and budgeting is welcome. I admire you for sharing and look forward to following!!
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