Jun
07
2011

Aspergers and Adolescence

by Kimberlee Stokes Affiliate Link Disclosure B

My son turned 16 last month and I’m presented with an entirely new set of issues: driving, summer jobs and weight lifting.

Job-It’s time to look for my son’s first summer job.  I know-I’m late.  Things just seem to sneak up on me sometimes and with the move and all of the upheaval in the last few months I hadn’t really thought about work.  He has now filled out a couple of applications, but I’m pretty sure that without a miracle he won’t be working. As my kids say,”Epic Fail Mom!”

Driving-Even though I’m a slacker in the job department, I have thought about driving. I don’t know if you can get your learner’s permit at 16 in this state, but I will be finding out soon.

I really want to wait until my son is 18 to get his driver’s license so that he can have a little more time to mature.  The thought of him behind the steering wheel of a car is slightly frightening–okay completely terrifying!  My husband did point out that as careful and detail oriented as he is about other things in his life, he will probably be a great driver.

Weight Lifting- At least we have one thing going for us.  Our local YMCA gave us a discounted membership so I am taking the family three times a week to swim, and in my son’s case, to work out. Lifting weights helps him physically and mentally and is a great way to expend some of the pent up frustration that comes with having three little sisters.

We’ll see how this adolescence thing goes. So far I don’t think I’m doing very well.

 

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Lori :) August 20, 2011 at 2:24 pm

Kimberlee –
My AS son will be turning 16 in Sept! He wanted a summer job too – but I was also a slacker mom! :) (and he didn’t seem too motivated to get out and put in applications anyways)
Driving . . . wow . . . we did driver’s ed this summer for him – and he didn’t pass the Behind the wheel. He “technically” didn’t have any “moving violations” – but the teacher said she had to put on her brake a little more than she liked. He needs a lot more practice – but I get very nervous riding with him (I need a brake on my side!) – and with 4 younger kids – I don’t really want him practicing with all them in tow as well. Though – it would be nice to not have to pick him up from school each day. One day . . . .one day . . . :)
We are also going to get him into weight-lifting at school this year (for his PE class) – as he not only need exercise, but some external motivation and instruction (other than from his mom!). It will be good for his weight, his self-esteem (hopefully) and health.
Anyways – I just wanted to say Hi and tell you that I’m looking forward to reading more of your posts on AS and your son. Our son was not diagnosed till the end of 5th grade (10 1/2 years old). It’s been a blessing to have the diagnosis (and he would tell you he loves being an AS kid!) as it has helped us understand him so much more – and how to parent him and help him. He’s a great kid . . . but because he’s also my first, I’m not sure what all to do, how to help, etc with the teenage years. We’re muddling through it – and so far, so good . . . mostly . . . :) It’s WAAAYYY better than the middle school years and all the meltdowns we had! :) Sooo much better! :)
Blessings!

Lori :)
ps – I just started reading your couponing (or “non-couponing) e-book. Great stuff so far! :)

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Kimberlee August 20, 2011 at 2:31 pm

Hi Lori! I totally know what you mean about muddling through, but he also is doing much better than he did in middle school. I guess all those hormones have something to do with it! :)

Glad you like the e-book. Thanks for taking the time to let me know!

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