Nov
10
2010

Moving and Aspergers

by Kimberlee Stokes Affiliate Link Disclosure B

Moving is one of the top stressors for any family, but moving with a child who has autism is even more difficult.

As you may have read in previous posts, my teenage son has been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome (an autism spectrum disorder). We have challenges on a regular basis, but stressful situations tend to increase the severity of my son’s problems.

Through the years I have learned a few helpful ideas for handling stressful times in our life.

 

Maintain Routines

Children with autism spectrum disorders need to feel in control because the way their brains interpret and handle life on a daily basis is overwhelming to them.  Giving structure to an autistic child enables him to feel in control and thereby enables him to maintain control of himself.

My job is to keep our regular schedule as much as possible.

 

Give Advance Notice

Keeping the schedule in place is important, but not always possible. In the event that activities are going to change, I try to let my son know immediately.

To an autistic child, the world is a very confusing place. New activities and sensory information take more time to process and often create great stress for the child. Although my son is very high functioning, he still needs time to adjust mentally to new situations and giving him a detailed explanation of upcoming events helps him to feel prepared.

 

Remain Calm

Because life happens and we can’t always predict how our day will go, we also talk about being flexible and remaining calm in stressful situations. The most important person to keep calm is ME.

All children have built-in stress radar, but children with autism spectrum disorders are even more sensitive to the emotions and actions of those around them. My first job is to remain calm and relaxed in order to help my son remain calm and relaxed.

I also teach my son coping strategies for new situations such as relaxed breathing or removing himself from the situation for a few minutes and going to a quiet area (bathroom stalls or dressing rooms can be good for this in public places.).

Of course, there are many times when I forget everything I know and get frustrated with my son and his responses.  Thankfully, I get many more chances to improve!

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©2010 The Peaceful Mom-No material on this website may be reprinted in any form without the express written consent of the author.   Please note that this post is not intended as professional advice, but simply the author’s personal opinion.  You should seek professional advice if your circumstances require it.

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Kim November 10, 2010 at 12:53 pm

I really appreciated this post. My oldest son (of 4 boys) is easily stressed, hates clutter, disorder and crowds of people in general. It is not severe, and he has never been diagnosed with any disorders. He is just truly a type A personality. Unfortunately, his brothers tend to be right the opposite. Your post reminded how important it is to be always sensitive to his needs. Thanks so much! What you are doing with this website is truly a ministry and it matters much!. Praying for God’s blessings and guidance for you and your family!

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Kimberlee November 10, 2010 at 1:05 pm

Thanks for your encouragement Kim! It’s difficult to meet everyone’s needs at times, but good to be reminded.

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Cindy November 12, 2010 at 9:02 am

great post Kimberly! Sounds like my day to day activities as well. Thanks for th extra info.

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Kimberlee November 12, 2010 at 9:05 am

Thanks Cindy!

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Stephanie in FL November 13, 2010 at 11:20 am

Thank you for this post and the links. My 15 year old son was just diagnosed this week with Aspergers, among other things. We have always suspected this diagnosis, but had to fight just for testing and other things. These links will be quite helpful to us.

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Kimberlee November 13, 2010 at 11:30 am

I am so glad Stephanie! I think it just helps to know that someone else is going through the same thing.

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